Be Honest With Me

Alright, just a quick poll to start off this week. How many of you have said this to yourself. “I did that or said that to spare that person’s feelings”? This is something we all tell ourselves about how we treat people at times in our lives. However, let me ask you all something…, is that a valid excuse? In my opinion that excuse, the excuse of sparing a person’s feelings is a very convenient way of us legitimizing taking the easy way out and not telling the truth to people, effectively lying to them. The truth, being honest isn’t always easy. In life, and this is cheesy, but it’s true, Honesty is the Best Policy. That’s what we owe to our friends, family and the like is to be honest and truthful with them about a myriad of different things. In fact, Fred Rogers was a big proponent of honesty and truthfulness, because he didn’t act out a different persona on camera than he did in real life. He spoke the honest and sometimes harsher truths about very serious things on his show despite how others might feel about it. However, honesty, truthfulness is not always easy. Not by a long shot. In fact, it can be one of the hardest things to do. It can hurt a person’s feelings, yes, in some cases. That said, if you’re not honest with a person and they find out that you weren’t, the fall out from that would be worse than if you were just honest with them from the start. People are very intuitive, in many cases, it can be obvious when a person is not being straightforward or truthful. And, not to put to fine a point on it, but, many people are not as soft as one might think. Meaning that, telling them the truth and being honest with them might not necessarily hurt their feelings at all. So, again, that excuse I referenced earlier might in fact not be a valid one at all. Now, one final point. There is such a thing as too blunt, too honest. Saying that, a balance must be struck and you must be honest, but with kindness. My Dad always says, “Tell the Truth in Love”. Mister Rogers was one of the people who was best able to strike this balance of honesty and truthfulness, and kindness all quite successfully. Be honest and truthful when you talk to your friends and family, and they will do the same for you. Honesty is the order of the day today and for that matter for every day!

Alright, well, that’s about all the time I have for this week, so, until next week, take care, be safe, and goodbye everyone, have a great weekend, I’ll see you right back here next week!

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